Marrying for money is back in style. Well, at least it's not the dirty little secret it used to be and there is a spate of new books to help women who want to marry rich.
A recent issue of Town & Country Magazine devotes a whole issue to love, marriage and money. None of the writers about love are sure about what it is. Everyone knows what marriage is, and actually, no one openly admits that they married for money, but most people aren't fooled when they meet the mate. For example, does anyone think that the 24-year-old engaged to Hugh Hefner, 60 years her senior, is marrying him for anything else?
Daphne Merkin, rethinking her own refusal to marry for money, writes "If the man is rich enough, one overlooks - everything. He can be bald, hairy, have a stomach that hangs like an apron and be really under-endowed." Rich is rich.
I meet many women who won't admit that they married for money, but freely confess that they stay married because of the money. I remember a woman in one of my seminars who said “Am I happily married? That's beside the point. I know what I’ve got – and at least he has money.”
Many of the other women agreed with her. Another woman said "Don't you feel like you sold your soul just for the money?” Hey, souls are sold for lots of other things as well.
Is there a difference between going in for the money and staying in for money? Is it wrong to believe that money makes someone more interesting? If marriage buys you a lifestyle you want, are you selling your soul if you’re opting for security and stability over romantic love and passion?
What would you tell your daughter?