Financial intimacy is not about trust.
It's about the relationship of two adults who choose to commit their lives to each other.
It presupposes equality, the sharing of information that affects both partners in the marriage.
It's not optional to the relationship. It's central.
Intimacy about money is not about romance. It's about real life.
The words money and romance don't belong in the same sentence.
They are polar opposites when it comes to being a responsible adult.
You deserve transparency about finances because it's your right, it's important and it will strengthen your marriage. The problem lies in women not trusting their own capacity to learn, to participate in the finances and to think of themselves as equal financial partners. Men are not better with numbers. They are not smarter with money. However, many think men think they are, and too many wives agree with them.
The plain fact is that marriage makes a couple a legal and financial unit. The government does not care who is doing the finances. It assumes that both partners agree that how the money is being used is a joint decision. That's why financial intimacy - knowing and understanding what your husband is doing financially - is so important.
The bottom line is that you have a right to know, the law supports your right to know, and you will benefit if you know. Don't leave it all to your husband - he's not any smarter than you are.