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Financial Intimacy Book Cover - Don't Worry About a Thing, Dear.When I was widowed without warning, my world turned upside down. In this book, I share my financial fears during our marriage and how my husband and I addressed them before he died in an accident. What I learned and what I write about can help save your marriage. If you face divorce or widowhood, the same information can save your life.

This book shows you how to become financially intimate and equal in your marriage. By following the advice in this step-by-step guide about marriage and money, you will protect yourself against the financial consequences of divorce or widowhood. Buy the Book.

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Excerpt from Chapter 1

Don't Worry About a Thing Dear - Why Women Need Financial Intimacy
I loved my husband and suffered agonizing trauma and loss after he died suddenly in an accident. But without the financial preparation I completed — some on my own, some with my husband — my life would have been dramatically different. I would never have recovered financially from the burden of his death. I would never have forgiven him for risking my future safety to achieve his dreams. And I might have felt guilty forever for all the things I hadn’t shared with him.

Today, I would never allow someone to make financial decisions for me without discussing the consequences of those actions first. I would insist on understanding anything I sign - a contract, an income tax return, and a letter of intent — that would obligate me financially. But I wasn’t like that during my two marriages. The first ended in divorce; the second ended in death.

Like so many other women I know, my marriage had a public face and a private face. It endured because of protective fictions on my part that ate away at me slowly, but steadily. I realize now how those fictions enabled the relationship to function.

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