I’m thrilled that you’ve found the man of your dreams. But frankly, your choosing to be married at a posh resort in the Bahamas is going to present financial challenges for us, your invited guests. Yes, we realize it’s a winter wedding so you have to head south because the weather is more predictable. And yes, that’s where you met your husband-to-be on a scuba diving trip.
Sure you’re special, and I’d love to celebrate with you, but you’re costing me a lot more than I intended to spend. I appreciate that you managed to get deluxe accommodations for all of us at a discount. I know how much time and attention you devoted to making sure that we have a wonderful time. But this is your wedding, not mine. This is your decision, not mine. The $1,000 it will cost me to be at your wedding ( not including the gift from your registry) is really a financial stretch, especially since your destination wedding is the third one I’ve been invited to this year.
Does this sound petty? Probably, but it’s also realistic. This destination wedding is also a financial burden for your family. They know it’s your special day, that you’re in love and that a wedding is once in a lifetime (theoretically). But promise me, that if you marry again, which statistics show you probably will, you’ll either pay my way for your wedding weekend or you’ll remarry closer to home.
